Relationship Problems – Is There An Unpardonable Sin?

Anyone that has ever been in a relationship of any kind knows that every relationship has problems.  That is, anyone that has any degree of intelligence.  It takes a really not so smart person to think you can sail through all of your relationships problem free.  That doesn’t happen. Not even on sitcoms and romance movies because their very plot lines center around effective problem resolution.  See? Even the greatest love story of all time caught on film would not be what it was today if it didn’t have fundamental relationship problems that propelled the story line.

Yours are going to be the same, unless you go into your relationships naively thinking there will never be a problem.  In fact, if you have a history of problem free relationships, you are doing something wrong.   Solving problems together with someone is part of what makes the best relationships work for decades at a time.

No two people are the same, and even two people that are extraordinarily similar can not live in the same house for a month without there being SOMETHING. 

That’s what makes humans so awesome.  We are all so different. 

Yes, it creates conflict, tension, and drama sometimes, but you will learn as you grow in your relationships that it is how you handle them that really counts.  Whether those relationships are with your parents, your sisters, your brothers, your peers, your friends, your employers, your employees, and even your lovers, you will have a problem at some point along the way.  When you look at your most successful relationships in those groups, you know that handling problems together rationally is probably what has held you and that person together for this amount of time.

So that being said, let’s get to today’s topic.  Relationship problems.  I’ve also asked, is there any unpardonable sin?

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Get Him Back When YOU Are Ready

Today I want to talk about something that I have a feeling some of you won’t be comfortable with.  Many of you are here because you want to know how to get him back.  Something has happened that has caused a great divide and you are either on a break, separated, or flat out broken up.  You may even be in the process of a divorce.

Whatever you are going through, I am so very sorry for your heart break.  Right now you have been faced with the cold hard realization that something didn’t turn out the way that you thought it would, and you are heartbroken over that.  All you can think about is getting him back, so that it can all be right again.

Today, I am going to try and straighten your perspective on that in a way that will benefit your relationship now, or any relationship in your future.

The first thing you need to do is figure out, with 100% honesty, what you are heartbroken over

Are you REALLY heartbroken over losing him? Or are you heartbroken over losing the stability and safety of a relationship?  You will not be able to answer this question without some cold, hard soul searching.  So give it some time.

Truly think about what you miss.  Do you miss waking up next to this amazing person every morning and their daily “good morning sunshine!”.  Or do you miss having someone that is able to get your oil changed, or pick up your dry cleaning, or bring by dinner when you are too tired to cook?

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How to Make Him Want You

So you want to know how to make him want you.  Well, this is one of those situations where if I had “the dirty little secret” on that one I would bottle it up and sell it and go live on the beach somewhere.  Yes, this is another one of those where there is no cold hard answer that will make all of your relationship dreams come true.

Why? Because once again, the amazing thing about humans is that we are in fact, all different. 

Every single one of us, 6 or 7 billion of us, we are all our own unique entity. Pretty cool, right?  Not so cool when you are trying to find answers in love.  When your odds are in the billion against you range, not so cool.

Only if you look at it that way. 

Your alternative?  Look at it the way that I see it.  In my world of dating, I have come to learn that if you live by the Golden Rule, you are golden.  In other words, treat them the way that you want them to treat you.  If you want to be showered with affection and compliments and adoration, you need to give as good as you want to get. 

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