How to Make Him Want You

So you want to know how to make him want you.  Well, this is one of those situations where if I had “the dirty little secret” on that one I would bottle it up and sell it and go live on the beach somewhere.  Yes, this is another one of those where there is no cold hard answer that will make all of your relationship dreams come true.

Why? Because once again, the amazing thing about humans is that we are in fact, all different. 

Every single one of us, 6 or 7 billion of us, we are all our own unique entity. Pretty cool, right?  Not so cool when you are trying to find answers in love.  When your odds are in the billion against you range, not so cool.

Only if you look at it that way. 

Your alternative?  Look at it the way that I see it.  In my world of dating, I have come to learn that if you live by the Golden Rule, you are golden.  In other words, treat them the way that you want them to treat you.  If you want to be showered with affection and compliments and adoration, you need to give as good as you want to get. 

If you aren’t being showered, look to yourself and see what you are doing to inspire being showered with affection before you blame someone for not doing just that.

And that my friends, really and truly is the way to make him want you

Whether you are just trying to get a date with him, have been dating him for six months, or have been married to him for ten years.  When you act in a way that you want to be treated, it inspires him to do the same thing.

Now, I’m not saying go loco-moco here.  Do not send him a present everyday in a way that will embody the twelve days of girlfriend hell, or anything like that.  Definitely do not go overboard.  But do make a point to appreciate him as often as you can, without looking like a crazy person.

It is actually much easier than it sounds.  They even have a name for it.  It’s called flirting.  It’s an important part of any relationship, no matter how long or how little you’ve known him.

If you haven’t met him or haven’t even gone on a date with him, find a way to be in his presence naturally.  If he lives two states away, showing up in the ‘hood is a bad, bad idea.  But you can send him an email.  If you can’t even do that, you need to set your sights somewhere else girlfriend.

If you have been dating for a while, and you feel a little bit of the spark is gone, or you are worried he might break up with you, or maybe he even already has, there is still hope. You just need to remind him of who and what he fell in love with.  Prepare a special night for him if you want that re-creates a magical moment together.  Or even just send him a text that lets him know nothing other than you are thinking of him, “just heard that song that was played on our first date, wanted you to know I was thinking of you.” Even if he IS mad at the time he gets that text, that will mean something to him.

If you are married, you have more tools in your toolbox to inspire those feelings in him. Those feelings where he truly wants you and can’t think of another woman.  Use your history and your memories shared to create something unique for him that shows him what you think of him.   Remember the last time that you can recall he was completely smitten with you and let you know it, re-create that moment, or something like that moment.  Remember, the feelings you want him to have for you, you need to inspire by showing them to him first.

Listen ladies, this is actually a lot easier than you think. 

Please don’t be reading and re-reading this post trying to see between the lines on what I really mean. Because I REALLY mean all of it.  Men are not the complicated and complex alien life forms that some of you make them out to be.  They are just as human as you are.  They have feelings, and they deserve to be treated well, just like you.  If you want them to worship the ground that you walk on, you have to give a little yourself. 

Do so without looking like Rose on Two and a Half Men, and you will find yourself inspiring exactly the kind of relationship you have been looking for.

If you are not with him now, the first step is to make him miss you, so he will want you back. I invite you to check out my guide on how to make him miss you.

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